If you’ve ever begged God for relief and got silence in return, this is the book you’ve been waiting for.

This Isn’t About Church Hurt—It’s About Breaking Up with the Beliefs That Broke You.

It’s time to reclaim your voice, your story, and your self-worth.

This Isn’t About Church Hurt—It’s About Breaking Up with the Beliefs That Broke You.

“I didn’t write this because it’s trendy to deconstruct.

I wrote it because I needed to survive.”

I am no longer a believer.
This is not a “spiritual rebrand” or a gentle detour away from church.
This is a full, unapologetic breakup.

Breaking Up With Jesus: Escaping the Chains of Christian Codependency is not about “church hurt.”


It’s about the deep, systemic conditioning that taught us to abandon ourselves in the name of a God who never showed up.

It’s about the spiritual gaslighting that kept us in toxic relationships, toxic churches, and toxic theology—
all while being told it was “God’s will.”

We were told our suffering made us holy.
That our silence was strength.
That the abuse we endured was part of “God’s plan.”

And for years, we blamed ourselves for the silence.
For not hearing God.
For not feeling chosen.
For not being enough.

But here’s the truth: We were never in a mutual relationship.
We were in a cycle of fear, guilt, and spiritual manipulation—
and we were praised for staying loyal to it.

Inside Breaking Up with Jesus, I share how to...

  • Identify the 10 toxic traits of Christian codependency

  • Break free from obedience culture and spiritual gaslighting

  • Heal from God’s silence as a trauma bond

  • Reclaim your voice, values, identity—and set boundaries that stick.

This Is for the Woman Who...

  • Stayed in toxic relationships because “God hates divorce”

  • Carries guilt for leaving the church (or wanting to leave)

  • Prayed through depression instead of getting help—and paid the price

  • Wants freedom but needs a path to unlearn it all

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About the Author

Tai Goodwin is a writer and liberation coach who spent years trying to pray her pain away. After surviving spiritual gaslighting, obedience-fueled emotional abuse, and a lifetime of religious codependency, she chose herself—and never looked back.

Now an unapologetic atheist, Tai helps women unlearn toxic beliefs, rewrite their stories, and reclaim the power, pleasure, and peace that religion tried to bury.


Breaking Up With Jesus is her love letter to every woman who dared to ask, “What if God’s silence was the answer?”